I always thought of love being a very complicated process between two people. I was always confused about why I never had a girlfriend and other guys did. After talking to my friends, I found out about the game. The game could be one of the most difficult to actually play and understand. A general list of the rules of the game from the start of the developing relationship:
1. Guy must approach girl and show confidence towards the girl. (Girls very rarely approach the guy, so this is a key rule for the game)
2. After approaching the girl, guy must keep the conversation going to make sure the girl maintains interest and doesn't just move on.
3. Once guy has acquired the number of the girl, guy must text girl first, but it is essential that he waits a few days. If he doesn't wait, the girl will most likely get creeped out and get the wrong idea about the guy.
4. When texting the girl, the guy can't come off as too nice and he needs to make sure that there is a certain mystery maintained towards him so that she keeps curiosity.
5. The guy must ask the girl out on the first date and when going on the date, he needs to show confidence and makes sure that it at least looks like he knows what he's doing. Maintaining a sort of mystery for yourself could also be a good thing at this stage because it will build curiosity for the girl.
6. After doing these 5 steps, the girl should stay interested in the guy and it should lead to a rather successful relationship.
I'm leaving this blog open to anyone who would like to tell me about anything that I left out of this process or how these steps actually ended up working for someone.
There are no rules when it comes to love. My current relationship started out breaking all the rules. It was years of friendship turning into more (best kind of breaking the rules, if you ask me). The only reason the rules you listed might work is because of course girls are going to like a guy who shows confidence. Would it be attractive if a girl had zero confidence? No, of course not. Also, you want to keep interest so the girl has time to really get to know you so she can want to stay for the right reasons, not because you’re mysterious. I think the most important thing is to be honest and just be you (cliché, but it works). If the girl doesn’t like that then why would you want to be with her anyways? You don’t want the foundation of any relationship to be based on lies or misconceptions. It will only lead to disaster.
ReplyDeleteBut if you believe in these types of theories then I guess the ladder theory is worth a look too: http://www.laddertheory.com/ Unfortunately, a lot of it is way too true for a lot of people out there, so beware…
Yes, a lot of relationships can work without following these rules. I just find that these rules can be prevalent in college or with girls who tend to get a lot attention from guys anyway, so you really have to work their attention.
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